Measure of the strength of a relationship lies in the effort of both partners to love in spite of ups and downs. It is about appreciating the rosy parts and tolerating/understanding the not-rosy parts.
Many relationship broke up because of lack of understanding and willingness to make concessions and sacrifices. Actually Relationships start blindly by peripheral understandings and attraction; it proceeds through adjustments, forgiveness and understanding; and breakup over misunderstandings, mistakes or lack of tolerance.
Just as relationships can be strong, so they can be delicate and break over minor issues. And one could feel too awkward or bitter or egotistical to try reaching out for a reconciliation, though, reconciliation is possible depending on one’s level of maturity and perspective on issues. Ultimately, relationships are mind products, subjective to each person.
It may be difficult though, but here are ways on reconciling after a breakup:
1. Understand the Reasons Behind Breakup
To resolve any issue, understanding the reasons is important. Without knowing the root cause, relationship issues cannot be repaired. It can be a past reason which is now absent or a still persisting reason. Analyze each stages of the relationship and find out at which point what has gone wrong. Once the reasons of the break up are realized, the solution may be easy. Figuring out the element that lead to the breakup helps the partners to change it and get back into the relationship. Experts say that the process of figuring out the reasons of breakup can be much effective if made mutual.
2. Forgiving is Magical
Once the issues are dug out, the next step is to forgive the mistakes of both the partners. If you still hold on to the mistake committed by the partner, then it may cause another breakup in the future. Understand why the partner committed such a mistake and forgive him/her forever if you wish to take the relationship a long way further. Your forgiveness may initiate a new life and new relationship between you two. If the mistake is found to have committed by you, then be ready to change entirely to not to repeat the action and let your partner to go away forever, leaving no chance of a reunion.
3. Renew the Commitment
Once you are back in track, renew the commitment and let your partner know the new resolutions and decisions. Once you commit to be good to your partner and also to avoid mistakes, then adhere to the commitments. Many partners get into commitments and they forget them easily. Consistency of commitments is very much required to keep the warmth of relationships ever remaining. It is rightly said that you can never change the past; but possibly the future. Realize the past mistakes and commit to not repeat them in the future.
4. Change Yourself
You may not be able to change the partner as you desire; but you can very well change yourself. Changing yourself is the better way of resolving the issues and renewing the problems. The changes may make you appear more appealing and accepted by the partner. You can also try to implement certain changes in the partner but if the person is willing, then the only way is to change yourself to comply with the partner. Changing oneself doesn’t mean being submissive to the partner, but following a better way to be in a more satisfying relationship.
5. Communication is the Keystone
Most of the issues in relationships can be resolved with right communication with the partner. It is commonly observed that slight misunderstanding or trivial mistakes are many a times the cause for several breakups. Approach the issues in a relationship, positively and try to make each partners understand the real situation. Communication means conveying the facts and truth and also offering support, help and forgiveness each other. Talk with a mind of acceptance. Do not try to defend or resist the arguments of the partner and accuse each other for all the mistakes. Let the communication be creative, rather critical.
