If you find yourself in this situation, where your man is perfect but the sex life is lacking, take a look at this advice before you waste too many years on sex that doesn’t make your toes curl.
1. Find The Root Cause
What makes it so bad? Is it a compatibility issue? Is it boring? Maybe sex can be bad because you’re experiencing sexual pain. According to Marin, we need to spend some time figuring out what exactly makes it so bad in order to fix it.
For example, if it’s boring, maybe couples just aren’t putting enough effort in and want it to happen naturally. If someone is experiencing sexual pain, maybe they have a condition they’re not aware of. Maybe they have a past history of experiencing sexual abuse.
Whatever it is, you need to take a step back to figure out the underlying cause for the bad sex in order to move forward.
Once you figure out the base problem, the key to solving it is through communication. Don’t be afraid to tell your partner what’s working and what’s not. After all, how can you help solve the problem if they didn’t even know there was one to begin with?
3. Stop Worrying About Technique
One major reason why people don’t enjoy sex as much as they could is because they’re too in their heads. They overthink things. They overanalyse too much. But don’t do that. Be present!
Getting out of your head, getting more into the moment, getting into your body, and discovering the things that you like to do is the most important. Discovering the ways that your body likes to move.
It’s not about technique and being perfect and going through all these steps. It’s about enjoying yourself, having fun, and genuinely caring and connecting with your partner.