As parents, we have great influence on our children and as fathers, even greater influence. Which is why it is very important for fathers to keep close to their daughters and always teach them good lessons with which to live by in a man’s world. Well, here are 10 lessons fathers must give their daughters before they get taken by their future spouses.
1. Follow your heart
There might be times, when after marriage some of your decisions may raise a few eyebrows. But, don’t let people manipulate you or your decision. Do listen to everyone, but at the end, take your own decision and do what you think is right. Give a reasonable explanation for your move and stick to it until the end. The things will either happen the way you planned or will not. Or, it will be a learning lesson.
2. Always respect yourself, and learn to be independent
No matter how tough a situation gets, always respect yourself, because if you don’t respect yourself, your partner will also not respect you. Also, men like strong women who can take charge of things, whether at home or outside. So, instead of counting on your husband or someone else for every little thing, take charge in your own hands.
3. Take care of your in-laws as your own parents
You have to think of your in-laws as your family, and furthermore as your parents. You have to love and respect them the same way you do with us. Accept them, but not with expectations. This way it will be easier for you to make a special bond with your in-laws.
4. Value his family members
Your love should not just be limited to your in-laws, it should extend to his extended family as well. Just the way you would want your man to love and respect not just your parents, but also your siblings and other relatives. Learn to do the same. Value all the relationships equally, whether they are his or yours.
5. Adapt and do not hesitate to learn new things
After marriage, few things will change. You might have to start doing household chores, or managing household finances, or adjusting your lifestyle according to your husband’s and his family’s. Instead of ignoring these changes, adapt and try to learn them.
6. Never run away from any situation
There might be situations after your wedding, when you might feel that you can’t handle things anymore. But, instead of running away from them, face the situation, try to find the core of the problem and resolve it. It is the only way to get peace of mind. Running away will not do any good.
7. Your husband deserves your appreciation, and his space
Men love their individuality even after marriage, do not try to change him too much. Learn to accept him just as he is, if you want him to accept you as you are. Also, appreciate your man for things he does for you and your family, no matter how small or big they are.
8. His mother might mean the world to him, and that is ‘Okay’
The way a man behaves with his mother, says a lot about how he would be with his wife, and how he will be his daughter too, in future. When your mother and I, got married, she knew how close I was to your grandmother. She open-heartedly accepted this, and she too showered same love on her, and this strengthened our bond further. So, instead of cribbing and labelling your man as a ‘mamma’s boy’, learn to be a part of their relationship, and respect their bond.
9. This will always be your home
Even though we live in a society where most girls are told that after marriage their husband’s home is their only home, but that is not true. This is your home and your family, and the doors to this home and to our hearts are always open for you.
10. And, I am always there for you
No matter where you are, in what situation, you can always count on me. For me, no matter how old you grow, you will always remain my little princess.
