The mistake most persons make is entering relationships with fantastical expectations. Well, relationships in reality is not as portrayed in fairy-tales or some fantasy/romance movies
You may get heartbroken if you enter into a relationship with the following expectations:
1. Expecting that loving on each other will be natural
This is too much of a demand to place on yourself, and it is too much of a need to place on someone else. Loving a whole different person is possible but it is not an instinctive thing, at least not at the beginning of the relationship. Being a great partner is an acquired skill. People grow into the role with time, consistence and dedication to the cause.
Loving and staying in love is intentional, not necessarily natural.
2. Expecting that they’ll change for you
Chances are that they won’t! You need to pay more attention to how they treat you. If something fundamental about the guy or babe you’re dating doesn’t work for you, call it a lesson learned, do them a favor, and move on. That’s kind of the point of dating.
3. That they won’t notice other people now that he’s with you
Actually they will. Being with you will not take away their ability to see other people, trip for them and be attracted to them. What’s important is that despite these attractions, they stay true to you.
If they do this, all is fine. You really can’t ask for more than this.
4. Expecting that understanding you will happen just like that
As much as we’d love to be understood all the time, our partners are different from us and that’s why we love them. Always communicate your desires and needs. Do not judge your partner on something they do not even know about! Speak up.
5. Thinking that if they love, you they won’t cheat
This isn’t true. Someone who loves you can cheat on you. And that someone cheated on you does not mean that they no longer love you.
However if they cannot consolidate that love with affection, love, dedication and most importantly, commitment to boot, you can’t afford to be with them because love is actually never enough.
