A relationship should be based on equality and mutualism. A relationship short of a balance between what they partners give and take would only lead to resentment, in other words a selfish partner would only cause issues in a relationship.
However one doesn’t just admit selfishness, sometimes we are even selfish without really knowing, because we think we are right or our ideals are right. Well, here are signs which indicate that you are being selfish:
1. YOUR PARTNER USUALLY GIVES IN
One of the most obvious signs you are being selfish in your relationship is the fact that every time you’re having a discussion with your partner, they are the ones who give in even if they don’t agree with you and even if they are not that happy doing it. In time, this can make them feel unappreciated and it can really damage their self-esteem.
2. YOU BELIEVE YOUR PARTNER NAGS YOU
You believe that your partner always nags you. The truth is that most people don’t like to nag and they actually hate the fact that they are forced to do it. Even though you are feeling very annoyed because your partner constantly nags you, they don’t do it because they like it, they do it because you are not listening to what they’re saying and because you don’t care about their needs.
3. YOU WANT YOUR PARTNER TO CHANGE FOR YOU
You see your significant other as being flawed and that’s why you expect them to change for you. Even if you realize that nobody’s perfect and that you have your own flaws too, you just think of them as being insignificant. For example, you want your partner to lose weight for you and to be more attractive, yet if you are overweight yourself, you do nothing to change that.
4. YOU WANT IT YOUR WAY
A very obvious sign that you are being selfish in your relationship is the fact that you always want it your way, no matter what your better half is thinking. For example, if you want to go somewhere but your partner wants to do something different, you pout until they give in and then you just cheer up instantly.
5. YOU DON’T APOLOGIZE
You don’t like to apologize, even if you know that you are wrong and that the other person is right. You have a big ego and you never say “I’m sorry.” This is a phrase that doesn’t exist in your vocabulary and you think that saying it and admitting that you were wrong is a sign of weakness.
6. EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL
Emotional manipulation is one of the techniques selfish people use very often to get what they want. Do you usually withhold sex, give the silent treatment or just ignore your significant other if they don’t want to do something your way? If you want something, just learn to compromise, improve your communication skills and consider your partner’s needs too.
7. LAZINESS
Are you usually excited to do the things you enjoy but when it comes to doing something your partner loves, you feel bored, restless and you try to squirm out of it? If you enjoy only the things that excite you but you are not willing to do the things that excite your partner, I must tell you that this is an obvious sign of selfishness.
