Initially, you both can’t get enough of each other, your partner gives you butterflies, his/her presence is just mind blowing. However, with the demands of everyday life, over-attachment could become a problem; making your partner feel choked, stuck and eventually resentful.
Therefore, to make sure you don’t choke your partner with over-attachment, do the following:
1. Fill your days with activities
The busier you are, the better for you. It makes the time spent with your partner more meaningful, more intentional and not punctuated with awkward silences where there is nothing to say.
Go out there and pursue your own goals, productive activities and other things that interest you and really matter to you.
2. Let people have their space
Too much closeness can put a strain on the relationship and no one surely wants to suffocate in a relationship. Give them the breathing space required to pursue other necessary relationships, hone needed skills, and do more in other aspects of their existence.
3. More trust
It’s incredibly important to trust your partner. If you don’t trust him or her, then it will be impossible to let your partner have the space to be who he or she really is.
4. Nurture other friendships
So far they are healthy and you know just the right amount of importance to attach to these friendships, then why not?
Good friendships provide an avenue to explore life in other rewarding dimensions, away from your partner. Finding happiness in other spaces and other forms outside of your relationship can only be good for your relationship.
5. Self confidence
People with more self-confidence are less likely to cling to others as a way of validating themselves.
Self-confidence can go a long way in ensuring that you feel good in a relationship. If you respect and love yourself, it makes it that much easier for others to do the same.
