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  • Ewa’s Thought in Words

    Ewa’s Thought in Words

    Choose Happiness…

    Today my thoughts fall freely like a new spring, undoing the bitter pills of yesterday. My experiences, my disappointments, my frustrations, pain and broken relationships. I’m high spirited, hoping for nothing less than the best in life.

    Fresh breath of a new dawn, an era of great triumph is where I stand, towered above annoying issues, looking them straight in the eye and refusing to get involved, a position only you can take, a decision only you can make. A french writer once said “happiness is a decision not a condition.” Do you know why? It is because life situations can never leave you happy. It appears as if it is a conspiracy to put you in a perpetual unhappy place that is why, it is a decision you must consciously and constantly make not because there is the absence of troubles or challenges but because you have realised that the only way to live above your challenges is to be happy.

    There was a time in my life I thought it was my place to fix everything and everyone that goes wrong. I got often sucked in and that left me always stressed, sad and depressed. I strived endlessly to make everything and everyone work. I woke up in the morning to this same routine everyday for so many years. Why? Because life kept putting me in an unpleasant, undesired spot, using friends, family and loved ones to taunt and make my life miserable. But as time went on, I got wiser, learnt to trust God and take it all to Him in prayers, especially when I know there is nothing I can possibly do in such situations or cases. It was at this point I knew I could actually stay above my problems and live happy even in the face of my many challenges. I believe this is the story of most of us right? We contend every single day with issues, when it seems like there is a breakthrough, just then a fresh problem appears but that is simply the way of life. So, do not let events or situations determine your happiness, else you may never really know what it means to be a happy individual.

  • Ewa’s Thought in Words

    Ewa’s Thought in Words

    Man’s nature

    I used to think that man’s wants were insatiable until I realised it’s not his wants, it’s his nature.
    He grapples with the sufferings of being human but most importantly of never getting satisfaction. . .

    I used to think that ingratitude is a state of being ungrateful resulting from lack of appreciation, then I realised it’s largely man’s nature to be ungrateful because, he is highly insatiable. . .

    I used to think suffering is a particular state of lack or disadvantage, then I realised it’s just a catalyst designed in every man’s DNA to propel him towards good or evil. . .

    I used to think that man is averagely selfish, then I realised an average man is selfishness personified. ..
    Gradually, man’s nature has modified from sheer dissatisfaction to greed.
    He spurns every law that challenges his unquenchable desires and sinks with his helpless nature of unending wants…

    The more he plunges, the more disgruntled he gets..
    Man strives daily, his goals and ambition to be at par with God.
    He seeks to run things hoping to be satisfied in the process, but even that does not guarantee his satisfaction.
    Because his nature is insatiable..

  • Matriarch women folks and nation building in Africa  

    Matriarch women folks and nation building in Africa  

    BY: AMB GODKNOWS IGALI
     
    One of the most significant and awe-inspiring mysteries of human existence is the gift of womanhood; in particular, God’s endowment with responsibility over regeneration of human­kind. So, every International Women’s Day (IWD) is fortuitous, not only to ponder on the deep spiritual worth of our womenfolk, but to look back on their roles and valued contributions overtime
     
    The 2021 Celebration of IWD comes on the silhouette of the explainable euphoria over the election of Kamala Harris, as Vice President of the United States of America and more, our own, Dr. Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala, to head the World Trade Organization (WTO). Coincidentally, on the celebration of IWD in 2020, I presaged Madam Ngozi’s ascension, in a dedicated piece, describing her then as “The Veritable Celebration of African Womanhood”. But the greater joy today is in the realization that the celebratory story of African womanhood in nation building has endured overtime.
     
    The truth is that women have always been key in nation building and in the political transformation of the African society. This is often dwarfed in the light of the more visible role they play as agents of social and economic development, especially at the primary level. The heritage of African feminist footprint in state building and overall development can be appreciated from different levels. Direct involvement in state building and political leadership; entrenched institutional roles for multilayer participation in society; and most important, imbedded matriarchal influence appreciation in overall African world-view and spirituality.
     
    Agreed that in most of Africa, society has tended to be overtly male dominated. However, the role of matriarchy in leadership in precolonial African society was ingrained and in several cases officially registered. Motherhood and maternal veneration ensured that the men, even at their highest levels of political accomplishment were essentially “sons of their mothers”. Unarguably, the average African man, past and present, from the most prominent empire builders and warrior-kings to the ordinary citizens is often their “mothers’ boys”. As a matter of fact, in the African social environment, unlike most other societies, men who are of great public standing always revere, with greatest piety, the ethereal presence of their mothers or some other maternal presence, unlike other cultures were male-maternal relationship is social and emotional. With African men, motherhood is also a spiritual cover. This also explains why in many African societies, the most revered religious roles are preserved for women-“priestess”. Indeed, this position is furthered by the fact that in some African cultures, the dominant names for God are of feminist root. This relates with the whole idea of veneration of “mother-earth”.  A good example is the Ijaws of the Nigeria’s Niger Delta, where God is severally known as “Woyingi” – our mother; “Tamara” or “Ayiba” – she who creates; etc.
     THE SPIRITUAL WORTH OF MOTHERHOOD
    Beyond the general sociological worth of matriarchal relevance, in many parts of Africa, women are often assigned specific political roles. Indeed, with several African groups, inheritance is through the female line. Good examples abound, amongst various groups in Ghana, especially the Ashanti, the Nembe (Ijaw) of Nigeria, etc. This helped produce powerful women in both political acculturation and actual governance roles. It reoccurred mostly in climes were the office of the “Queen Mother” took the centre stage. One of the most celebrated of these Queen Mothers, was Idia of Ancient Benin who ensured the ascendance of her son, Oba Esigie (r. 1504-1556) on the throne against unimaginable opposition. Thereafter, he worked to bring about his success and historical reckoning as one of the greatest African potentates ever. Her son has immortalized her with the famous “FESTAC MASK”. Much later in history, Queen mother, Nandi (1760-1827) mother of Shaka Zulu, of South Africa, helped her son expand his kingdom and was in charge of the Zulu Army and responsible for his great military exploits. The office of the Queen Mother among the Ashantis of Ghana was even of more relevance. In particular was Yaa Asantewaa (1840-1921). She led an army of thousands during the Wars, against the British colonial forces in 1900 also known as “the war of the Golden spoon. In 1901, the British exiled her to Seychelles until her death in 1921.
    At a more directly engaging level were African women empire builders and rulers. A classic example which appears even in the holy books is the legendary Queen Makeda of Sheba – “the Queen of Sheba”. Besides the scenic beauty, elegance and romance which she shared with King Solomon of Israel, accounts from Jewish and Arabic traditions confirm the great political legacy of this African mother. Her son, Emperor Menelik 1 of Ethiopia later ruled over much of the Horn of Africa in the 10th century BC, after rejecting the right to succeed King Solomon. Similarly poignant is the heroism of Queen Moremi Ajasoro “The Courageous”. Queen Moremi (12th century) was not ready to limit herself to being the wife of Oduduwa, the epical founder of the Yoruba race. Queen Moremi saved the nation from extinction in the hands of marauding attackers by placing her life up for martyrdom. Yoruba presence and civilization today spreads from Western Nigeria to large sections of Republic of Benin and Togo, the Caribbean and Latin America. Her son, Oramiyan, one of the greatest figures in African history, ended establishing the Ife Kingdom, old Benin and Oyo Empire and their associated royalties.
     
    EMPIRE BUILDING HEROINES
    Perhaps, the most celebrated political ascendency and achievements of any African women is the account of Queen Amina of Zaria. Her home town Zaria (Zazzau) was one of what was referred to as the original seven Hausa city States, the others being Daura, Kano, Gobir, Katsina, Rano, and Garun Gabas. As Queen, she expanded the bounds of her city to cover most of what is today Nigeria’s North-West and North central. Her army, about 20,000 foot soldiers and 1,000 cavalry troops, was known to have been well trained, motivated and equipped. She birthed the golden era of Zaria and Hausa people.
     
    Another case that now resonates in most historical discourse is the exploits of the ‘Amazon’ of Dahomey (now Republic of Benin).  The group of women warriors trace their origins to the ruler, King Houegbadja, (1645-1685). They were initially a band elephant hunters but his successor and daughter Queen Hangbe (1708-1711) formalized them as a corp of a female bodyguards. The group of female warriors was referred to by their male counterparts as “Mino”, meaning “Our Mothers” or “Mother Warriors”. With the ominous outcome of the Berlin Conference (1884/1885) and France’s push to take over Dahomey, these female warriors became the national defence squad and were reputed by European intelligence reports as “firing their flint stock from the waists and not the shoulder”!                     
     
    One of the first places which earliest European explorers made contact with in Africa was the Bantu Empire of Kongo. Though based in Angola, it extended to much of Central Africa and parts of Southern Africa. After arrival in 1483 and contact with the ruler, Manikongo in the succeeding years, the Portuguese tried to extend their influence and presence. Nina Mandy the Queen had led her people to successful resist such colonial penetration as far back as 500 years ago. The queen resisted colonisation right until her death in 1663. Her political influence in governance was overwhelming and became first major resistance to European takeover of Africa which became manifest in the centuries that followed. The rest of actual resistance against European colonization of Africa was in no way an exclusive male enterprise or left to the Amazons of Dahomey. During the reign of Menelik (1844-1913), the Italians, tried to make a foothold in Ethiopia. In the resistance which ensued, Queen Taytu Betul (1851-1918) played the direct leading role in mobilizing the people to help her husband at ousting the Italians especially in the Battle of Adwa in (1896). She kept Ethiopia uncolonized.
     
    With European conquest achieved by the barrel of the gun, the next phase of feminine activism and political participation in Africa shifted to nationalist struggle. In virtually every country on the continent, women leaders, against cultural barriers and stereotypes, therefore, rose up again alien rule. For example, from the turn of the century, Huda Shaarawi, emerged as Egyptian top political figure and feminist leader. In a predominately Islamic society, where discriminatory attitudes against women existed, she in 1923, formed her own organization and went on to pioneer the establishment of an Arab body for active participation of women in public life.
     
    In Nigeria, great women such as Funmilayo Ransome-Kuti, (1900-1978), an educationist and wife of a religious figure rose up against the existing orthodoxy. In what seemed a taboo, even for men, she challenged the age-old traditional order and even succeeded, temporarily, in 1949 in recusing from the throne a seating monarch, the Lake of Egbaland. Besides her towering legacies as founder of the Nigerian Women’s Union and Federation of Nigerian Women Societies, she championed the right of suffrage for Nigeria women. Her radical and activist work was pursued further by her sons, popular musician Fela Anikulapo-Kuti and Dr. Bekon Ransamoe-Kuti. In national politics, she was a great voice.
     
    In what was then Eastern Nigeria Region, the related experience of Magareth Ekpo (1914-2006) was at centre stage. A political landscape that was totally dominated by patriarchal traditions, she was able to break the glass ceiling to emerge a leader. She is refuted as the intellectual forte behind the famous Aba Women Riot on 1929 against excesses of colonial administration. This was the first ever of its type in all of British colonial Dr Nnamdi Azikiwe estate. Her political influence in the region was at par with the likes of Prof Eyo Etta, Mbonu Ojike, especially in mobilization of women to political action. In the 1950s, she teamed up with her “elder sister” Funmilayo Ransome-Kuti, to protest against killings in Enugu coal mines and welfare of workers. She was elected into the Eastern House of Assembly, a platform which she used to fight for women.
    In their great contributions to the fight against colonialism and building of the Nigeria State, there were other great women such as Janet Mokelu (1910-2003), a pioneer mobilizer and politician, Oyibo Odinamadu (b.1928), one of the early educated women and inspirator for establishment of National Council of Women Societies of Nigeria (NCWS) in 1958. In the north of Nigeria where like in North Africa, religion was used to exclude women, emerged the fiery Gambo Sabawa (1933-2001), canvassing a proletariat based movement and political mantra.
     
    Going further Southward on the African continent Gisèle Rabesahala of the island country of Madagascar, was the first woman to be elected as a municipal councillor in 1956, and became head of a political party in 1958. She is more renowned for her life-long struggle for Madagascar’s independence, and fight for human rights.
     
    ENEMIES OF APARTHEID
    In South Africa, the Apartheid System and Minority Rule were amongst the greatest injustices in human history. Introduced in South Africa in 1948, the fight against it was shared equally between men and women. The role of women was of singular impact as it was deeply people based.
    Amongst so many others, Lilian Ngoyi (1911-1980) was the first woman elected into leadership of the African National Congress (ANC), the arrowhead for the struggle. With unusual oratory skills, she took the anti-apartheid fight across the world. Equally, multiple award winning singer Marian Makeba, (1932-2008) dedicated her entire life work to the liberation struggle going round the world with her voice. No less were the roles of Winnie Mandela (1936-2018), who in the long wake of her husband (Nelson Mandela’s) incarceration for a quarter century took the gauntlet of being the principal voice against what existed. There were also Helen Joseph, Helen Suzman and Ruth First (though white), as well as Alberta Sisulu, Rhima Moosa, Charlotte Maxeke, etc.
     
    WEAVING OF POST INDEPENDENCE UNITY
    Post independence Africa found itself in the whirlpool of wars of varied proportions all around the continent. One of the worst internal wars took place in Liberia from 1989-1997 in which over 250,000 people died.    A heroine of the peace process was Ellen Johnson Sirleaf (now aged 83), who later came to rule the country and reconciled all.
     
    In same manner, Joyce Banda (aged 71) was a key political figure in her home country, Malawi, who saved the country from imminent and constitutional crisis and upheaved during 2012-2014. Also, Ameenah Gurib-Fakim was the first female President of Mauritius from 2015 to 2018. Similarly,         Sahle-Work Zewde became the first female President of Ethiopia and currently the only female out of  the 54 Presidents on the continent. But from Burundi to Central Africa Republic, unto Mauritius, Gabon and South Africa, other women have rules their countries in acting capacities.  Indeed, several more have headed national legislatures and the judiciary.                        Another set of African women political champions, who on the altar of spousal support are seen but little heard are the First Ladies. Their muted roles especially during the rough days of nationalist struggle and post independence instability and conflicts were overwhelming. The list includes, Ngina, widow of Jomo Kenyatta of Kenya, Maria Nyerere, widow of Julius Nyerere of Tanzania; Maria Obote, widow of Milton Obote of Uganda, Mama Betty Banda Kaunda, wife of  founding father of Zambia, and Mrs Helena Nkrumah, wife of Ghana’s founding father, Kwame Nkrumah.  Nigeria’s Mariam Babangida, wife of military ruler Ibrahim Babangida introduced “Better Life for Rural Women” – a crosscutting community-based programme, whose impact remains 30 years after her exit from power. Maryam Abacha equally formed a formidable support to her husband, military ruler, Gen. Sani Abacha. She founded the African First Ladies Peace Mission and built the scenic National Hospital in Nigeria.  Another former First Lady with great impact, is Jahen Sadat of Egypt. Interesting enough, her leadership roles especially in human rights and political inclusion have accentuated even after leaving office following the assassination of her husband, President Anwar Sadat in 1981.
     
    ACADEMIA AND THE PROFESSIONS
    With the foundation laid by the matriarchs, African women have foraged into other areas and made great success all adding to the scheme of building virile nation states. One dominant area is the academia. In all fields of knowledge and scholarship, African women have achieved great breakthroughs. By 1963, Prof Grace Alele-Williams, one of first women on the continent to obtain a PhD, became Vice Chancellor of a major institution, University of Benin in 1985. Others such as Zulu  Sofala, Bolanle Awe, Flora Nwankpa, Ghanaian playwright Ama Ata Aidoo, Kenyan Scholar and politician, Wangari Maathai became the first African woman to receive the Nobel Peace Prize in 2004.
     
    Same has been in the professions. As early as 1908, a woman, Blanche Azouley had been called to the Algerian Bar, while Juliet Zerah of Tunisia also attained as a lawyer in 1916. Still in the legal profession, Phyllis Mackendrick of Zimbabwe, Morroco’s Helene Cazas Benatar, Egypt’s Naima llayas all- Ayubbi, and Nigeria’s Stella Thomas followed, in 1926, 1929,  1933 and 1935 respectively. As it pertains to the medical field, as early as 1929, Elizabeth Yewande Savage from Nigeria had qualified as a medical doctor, followed by Elizabeth Awoliyi who was equally licensed to practice medicine in Nigeria by 1938. Same could be said of the military and security service where women have played great roles in the defence of the territorial integrity, internal peace of their various countries and in global peace keeping. A recent case deserving highlight is that of young Nigerian women who trained as fighter pilots, a case in point being Tolulope Arotile who passed while in active service to her fatherland.                           
     
    In the world of business, African women continue to contribute greatly to the GDP of the continent by their collective dominance of the agricultural sector. This is unnoticed but a reality. In more formal businesses, the women stock have produced some of the leading entrepreneurs in the world.  Nigeria’s Folorunsho Alakija, Angola’s Isabel Dos Santos, Kenya’s Ngina Kenyatta, etc being worthy examples.
     
    CONCLUSION
    The global theme for the 2021 IWD celebration is #ChoosetoChallege. In order words, a call for conscious efforts to continually test the waters. Not just Madam Ngozi but a stream of women champions have sustained the drive for equal partnership in nation building. In virtually every area of human endeavour, worthwhile contributions have been made by our womenfolk. It is therefore a challenge for present and upcoming generations of African women to redouble the tempo and momentum of breaking down the ancient doors of exclusion and discrimination.
     
    Recently, the world was greeted by what I called “the Finnish Marvel” in a 2019 article. Toward the end of that year, the new cabinet of Finland was unveiled, dominated by women. Women took twelve of the cabinet positions and left seven for the men. With a remarkably impressive and exquisite line up of beauties, Prime Minister Sanna Marin (34), and her amazing quartet, Finance Minister, Katrina Kulmuni (32), Interior Minister, Maria Ohisalo (34) and Education Minister, Li Sigrid Andersson (32), were unveiled to the world. They were also leaders of the main political parties in the in the country.
     
    No doubt, the Finnish example and similar experiences in New Zealand, Ireland, the European Union hierarchy have come about because somewhere along the way of nationhood, some people, especially women, #ChoosetoChallenge and it is surely worthwhile doing so on the heels of so great a legacy.
     
    Happy IWD to our mothers, wives, sisters and daughters as you keep pushing.

  • Ewa’s Thought in Words

    Ewa’s Thought in Words

    MORAL DECAY . . .7

    When morals decay, values are lost and the benefits of good moral values such as good manners and healthy behavioural habits are lost too. Consequently, great moral values such as truth, freedom, intergrity, respect, charity among others don’t function as they should.

    Morality has gradually become a concept instead of an actual operatable role. The pursuit of self actualization and some daring human ambitions in recent times has taken away in the real sense the values and virtues that once defined our existence as a people of good moral standing and standards.

    Over the years, the society has suffered many losses and morality is one of them. Whatever has happened over the years across the globe is gross enough to have changed the lives of many as opposed to what good morals should entail.
    Our conduct and thrills no longer reflect our beliefs as such our culture is endangered with so many unacceptable practices which now forms the new milieu.

    Moral values were the yardstick for distinguishing right from wrong. It helped us make good choices and directed us in the right part where other human sensibilities were considered and repected. Where good character was a goal almost everyone wanted to be identified with and the feeling of doing good was fullfilling and satisfying.

    Amazingly, the era of liberalism came and brought with it what I call selfishness. In this era, the concerns are mostly individualistic as priorities are no longer holistically accommodated, meaning that our once common and generally accepted values are now relative to individuals and how they relate to it.

    The effect of our moral decay is greatly incontestable, as the world goes through a phase of hate where even the love of self is lost. Human beings have become so incapable of love, respectfulness, compassion, truthfulness, honesty, a few amongst others. The world is in chaos today because of lack of love and respect for other human beings. The impunity and ignominy in which most people in places of power and authority treat their fellow human kind is largely devoid of love and moral justice. There is practically no respect for lives and rights of others. They act as though moral values are not meant for them as long as power and authority is in their hands. When did power and authority become synonymous with moral values? The question is still begging for answers.

  • Ewa’s Thought in Words

    Ewa’s Thought in Words

    THE WAKE OF DEPRESSION…

    It runs wild, no longer lurking in the dark nor lying in wait for ignorant victims.
    Knowledge cannot be depended upon when the mind fails to support beautiful thought nor exude pure bliss.
    Hopelessness has dominated the human resilience and resistance, it has deflated and depilated perseverance and has long lauched the spirit of despair through the crushing feeling of depression which is now the real reality of most persons.

    It’s no doubt that times have evolved, likewise the kind of problems associated with these times. . . Some of the Ideologies and philosophies of this new age are quite disturbing and the terror making rounds through insecurities, general hardships and sufferings not helping either. The human mind has gone mad with different kinds of perversions. The scaredness of humanity lost in the transient vanities of unreasonable desires and like bad wine, joy has lost its taste while striving to remain relevent in a depressive and repressive state of being which now trends like an epidemic.

    Depression roams freely in the streets of our minds inducing unusual sadness most times all over the place, causing anger and rage even in self conceit.
    The web of depression has spared no one. We are all roped in it one way or another with undeniable effects of bad governance at its roots over the years, while societial failure secures its stay and exerts irreparable effect on the lives of our youths and the society at large. Tell me, how frustrating can it be with young dreams in a society like ours where a first classs graduate roams the streets endlessly with no gainful employment many years after graduation? A certificate which he or she invested so much time and efforts in attaining? How frustrating can it be when life feels stagnant with no significant progression after so many years of toiling relentlessly with practically nothing to show for it, not even the luxury of having to eat good meals or eat when hungry.

    The youths are feeling inadequate and parents are feeling even worse as all their efforts to give their children a better life has become more like a mere waste of time and resources.
    Young dreams are scuttled while parental expectations are crumbling, the feeling of being let down a mutual wave controlling the tides of time.
    Life is truly an unpredictable venture, hard work and dedication does not most times qualify for sucess. What an irony!

    There is nothing as saddening as feeling stuck or trapped especially in these hard times when financial burdens are on the rise with practically low or no income to squash the effect that bad economy has overtly plunged everyone irrespective of age.

    The news of suicide in our society or even the other parts of the world is no longer a mystery. Depression has invaded our land, throwing our young men and women on a futile harvest of evil thoughts even death cannot resolve. Be wary therefore and know that living life is a choice we must consciously make, not because life is easy or is without troubles or frustration and disappointments but because it’s the noble way to go. Remember, taking your life or allowing depression ruin your life doesnt fix your problems or that of the world.

  • Ewa’s Thought in Words

    Ewa’s Thought in Words

    GENDER EQUALITY..

    Screaming gender equality is not enough! It can never change a thing, no matter the time. The woman has been blinded for so long by her continuous disadvantage.
    She has been oppressed far too long by the society, through norms and values, gender disparity and bad marriages so much so that she cannot opt for freedom even if she has the chance.

    She quarrels everyday about the unpleasant things done to her by the manly society she finds herself, where her usefulness majorly is to please the man, who has over the years been her oppressor.

    It’s obvious that the woman is no longer where she used to be in the society. Her determination and struggles have compelled her into fierce competition with the man, who for as long as he exists has taken undue advantage of what tradition and norms have armed him with in treating the woman as though a master to the slave. However, as much as the woman has now broken that chain of limitation and irrelevance, she’s still always held back in her own self hate and unending doubts and lack of confidence in herself no matter her feat and position. Permit me to say, a slave who has served the master for too long may never feel free even if they were released from their chains. The truth is that, the body might be free from the chains of the master but the mind will always remain in captivity.

    Women claim to stand together in celebration of days like international women’s day, mother’s day and any other female related celebrations. How about standing by their fellow women when its truly necessary to show solidarity and oneness of place and purpose in politics, social and economic platforms, which are the true stages of mental liberation and total deliverance from this long standing oppressive and repressive manipulation of the master called man. A typical example is that of Dr. Sarah Jibril, the first female in Nigeria to vie for presidency… We all know what happened right? Not even one woman cast her vote in her favour right?

    The woman must first of all conquer the truth of self and the awareness of what her real problem is. She must be more than ready to accept the truth and deal with it as such.

    Petty jealousy and hatred amongst women is the very reason their quest for equality may never be fully achieved. The woman spends a lot of time and efforts tearing down a fellow woman, when she is supposed to join hands in building the same woman.. Women must make deliberate efforts at supporting each other. As women join hands to lift each other, the journey to equality will yield dividends. Until then, it’s not yet Uhuru for the gender equality struggle in our society.

  • Ewa’s Thought in Words

    Ewa’s Thought in Words

    WHEN COURAGE FAILS…

    When courage fails me…
    When faith seems so absent…
    When life seems to be  against all my efforts…
    When the truth does not look like the answer anymore…
    When evil tends to be an acceptable trend…
    When those who should be the custodians of justice are themselves the injustices that prevail in the land.

    I languish in pain..
    Only wishing it was physical pain, where sorry could suffice
    where empathy of a loved one could make a deep difference.

    My soul griefs…
    My heart bleeds…
    in fretful array of consistent tiers of disappointment wrapped in pure disaffection.
    My thoughts are stirred and I begin to wonder how exactly we got here!
    How and when we are ever going to find our way back home. . .
    Home to that time when love was true…
    Home to the time when truth was real,
    When people prided in noble deeds…
    When honour was earned by those who worked for it.
    When there was joy in being human…
    Home where peace was like a sweet melody of songs.
    Home where hope led each day in honesty…
    Home where the society was cared for by it’s occupants. . .
    When nature agreed with man..

    Home where this craze of “I wanna blow” was not trending. .
    Where cultisim and ritualistic ventures were far from crave and patronage.
    Home where women felt safe and the story of rape, emotional abuse and sexual violations was not a theme. . .
    Home where kidnapping and abduction were rarely heard of…
    Home where killing of a fellow human person was perceived as taboo and punishable…
    Home where the community would banish anyone who brought shame through bad name and image…

    Home where people were warm and watched out for the safety of all…
    Home where anger did not rule the day nor envy the master of trade..
    Home where evil people were careful to be noticed because of the consequences they attracted…
    Home where people rejoiced genuinely for others’ success and growth and sincerely prayed for others’ progress and breakthroughs. . .

    Like migrants, we migrated from all these goodness and got lost in the desperate acts of individualism, where all that ever matters is satisfying selfish wants and desires.

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    Ewa’s Thought in Words

    FEAR WRECK’S . .

    Many have gone down because of a few unguarded comments certain disgruntled and spiteful losers did make about them…credit to social media.

    Nothing in this life is as dangerous as fear. Fear is one faceless monster that tirelessly feeds on man’s emotions. Like a disease, it can only be defeated by man’s resilience.

    When you react to everything that is said about you, it means you might just die before your time. Fear breeds death because it has a way of terrorising your body physiology if you let it into your system. Fear is a nerve – wrecker. It can cause brain freeze and even paralysis to the body as a whole. Fear ignites anxiety which induces a crazy level of distress, capable of demobilising any human person no matter their size.

    The human emotions are the most powerful signals ever transmitted without a medium. Human beings are generally driven by these emotions, like demons they possess. Most human emotions are high on negative vibes. When you allow yourself to be negatively driven by your thoughts, your feelings and any other humanistic pessimism, then there is absolutely no limit to which fear in you or around you can get.
    Fear, no doubt can cause mental brokenness.

    Brokenness is a state of mind where the human person feels fractured, defeated by life’s hardships, overly overwhelmed by trials. When the weight of life’s undesired occurrences keep putting pressure on your mental capacity and stretches out your elasticity as a human person, it’s only natural that giving into fear becomes an option.
    Pain whichever it is, is the second biggest enemy of man.

    It puts you under its clutches no matter the giant that you are.
    It makes you feel helpless and frustrated.

    Alone and defeated.
    It separates you from sounds of joy and plagues you with unending noise  of woes and worries.
    Sudden loss of interest to life and the excitement of a once promising and hopeful self.

    oblivion a better option than hope.
    Wallowing in self pity and condemnation a perfect craft without effort.
    Like a moving train, life goes on.
    Even when fear keeps you down on hold, like one held in traffic.

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    Ewa’s Thought in Words

    THE CONSTANT ACHE CALLED LIFE. . .

    There were times when living was so unsure..
    When life was so bleak,when doubts ruled both day and night.
    There were times when the thought of sleeping and rising seemed totally impossible.

    The nagging sound of aches grinds me, as I lie tired on the bed, hoping for the rise of a new dawn. A new breath, a new breeze and apprentently new health to contain my hope and propel my will.
    The night is the bridge between the thoughts of wellness and an escalated version of the worst of the pains that trolls my body..

    My mind fails me each contending moment when my life seems to be on the balance. . . Here am I staring hard into the space of empty thoughts, emotionless and blank. I smile at the intricacies of life even when the smile itself makes no sense in the face of all the evils life keeps bringing forth.

    The vulnerability of my soul speaks volume, the loudness of the unguarded bile drops constant in my throat.. a feeling no one but I can ever understand. Though we try to share most times in matters of others’ discomfort wishing and even striving to enliven the travails of such individuals, but life is what it is, the realities of life are unshakable as unthinkable. Surely, we all weary at some point, the twist and turns that accompany the constant aches as my heart pines in fretful tear of fear that out weighs the shock of the unexpected dearth of fortunes life largely does not hold.

    Energised in contemplation, accepting strife as life long realities no amount of wishing away can push away, dealing harshly with the unplanned and unpleasant the only way forward.

    Slowly, I drift in and out of this unabating aches not only my body but my mind experiences. Peace becomes an opium so desirable yet the needles of emotional insanity barely give way for the relief my body earnestly seeks.

    The torments that inhabit my bones as my ligament entrap the soreness that flows freely in my muscles and cells.
    Hmmm… what a constant ache called life.

  • Ewa’s Thought in Words

    Ewa’s Thought in Words

    BEAUTY IN THE DIFFERENCE…

    We all strive to find us in others. We believe we are the best version ever created. We look at others and see loads of flaws because they are different. Different in looks, different in reasoning, different in appeals, different in approach.

    We consider these differences as flaws. We think something is wrong when the people around us or people we chose to love can’t be like us, can’t see things the way we do. We query them, when they dont get to do things our way or like us. . . We forget that we are all beautifully created individuals, uniquely made by God and that our beauty lies in our differences and that you are right in your perception doesn’t make me wrong in mine. What appeals to you may not be my own appeal. The sharpness of your mind may be a far cry from mine. While some people need a repeat and a replay to grasp a discussion or an important intellectual issue under discourse, some people only need to hear the title or topic and the head is already buzzing with fresh unique details and amazing intellectual information on such. Meanwhile, many others are struggling with speed and sharpness of mind.

    Teachers don’t seem to understand why some students or pupils dont follow while they are being taught. They judge them by the speed of others. They pick on them and even try to exclude them most times from a supposedly interactive session in class, all because they are different. They are made spectators as though they are very unuseful. They are made jest of as though they are cartoon characters. The demarcation starts right from home when parents tend to pick the smart ones over the not too smart ones, giving attention mostly to outspoken than the quiet. Clearly, the pick marks the difference and so is the treatment .
    We consciously or unconsciously tend to exclude the different from our spaces both at home and in public arenas. We seize their courage and instigate their fears. They grow up with certain thoughts of unacceptability encapsulating their weaknesses into life long bitterness.

    Should we go on spreading this falsehood of qualifying the different among us as errors? Or should we choose patience and attempt rather to understand the reason they are who they are? I think the second will be a better option.