When Hurt is not Contained. . .
When hurt is not contained by good reflections, it lingers very long and cuts deeply. The human mind is like a fertile ground where crops grow and bear fruits, only that these kinds of fruits are not physical, but translate to actions that can be felt and perceived.
When hurt is not contained quickly, it gets contaminated with more hurt. For it is said that the innate desire of the “oppressed is to be like the oppressor.”
When hurt is not conciliated, it becomes profound like the face of an open ulcer. Hurt is like a growing plant. If it is allowed, it will bear fruits eventually. When lies are uncovered, trust is broken and the heart is betrayed. The depth of hurt depends on who is responsible, as rightly sung by the singer Natasha Bedingfield. In her Album “I bruise easily,” she said, “Anyone who can touch you can hurt you.” She does not mean the physical touch, she meant emotional, psychological, mental or even material touch I suppose. . . It means that for you to experience hurt, you must have some level of affection, emotional or material connection or attachment, to the extent that trust is built.
Incidentally, we get tangled with others everyday in this kind of situation one way or another, either in the process of trying to discharge our daily functions or in any other way. There is no guarantee as to what kind of relationships our interactions with others may lead, be it business partnership, mere acquaintances, whether its in common places such as cafe, market, weddings, hospital, restaurants, even schools. Once the interaction has moved from the original form or reason for which it all began, that means that something personal has evolved. . . In most cases, this something personal is the “heart” and when the “heart” is involved, emotions are deployed and this is why one can easily get hurt by the other because the intellectual ground on which it all began has either been replaced or shoved aside by emotions or straits of material gains.
Emotions are the bedrock upon which our weaknesses are formed as human persons. It’s only sad that the thread connecting our rational side to our emotional side is so thin such that controlling our rationality becomes a problem especially, for an individual lacking self discipline or control which is why getting hurt is mostly inevitable because we sometimes get easily carried away by our continuous interactions, that we begin to get too comfy to the extent of deviating from our initial reasons of connection or commitment to something very engaging or involving.
We all do get hurt at one point or another. We all also get betrayed at one point or another. It’s only quite painful when this feeling of hurt is caused by someone trusted. . . The act of trust discloses a level of belief, reliability, confidence imposed on us by another individual. They probably come to the point in their thoughts where they are convinced beyond reasonable doubts, that we are incapable of hurting them because of what they think we meant to them at that point or time or how dear they are convinced they are to us, but the irony most times is that people tend to relax at certain points in a relationship. When they think they have gained your trust enough, they no more make enough effort to protect or preserve that confidence that has been reposed in them until that trust given them is lost. The hurt caused therefore by this kind of person is deep. People betray each other in business transactions everyday but the feeling of hurt for such experiences is deeper if the person involved is one that the other has never imagined can hurt them in anyway or by any means at all. It is easier to deal therefore, if the one who has caused the pain is one in whom no confidence or belief has been invested.. .
As we all know, to hurt simply implies to feel damaged, harmed, sabotaged, undermined, marred and so on. It is not a good place for anyone to be at all. . . May we also not forget that the resultant effect of this kind of situation on the victim, is the person feeling betrayed, heartbroken, scared which if not contained may evolve into the person’s inability to trust again, to love again, always being apprehensive and unable to believe in anyone else even themselves. . . May we therefore know that it’s our responsibility to support in honesty each other’s sanity by being careful with the kind of thoughts we imprint in them through our actions, during our interactions or relationships be it business or personal, because we may never have the opportunity to purge such out of their minds, thus leaving the next person they meet to probably suffer for our sins or work super hard to repair the emotional damage we sure did cause.
