One will definitely agree that being single, while having emotional stability and some peace, goes way better than tolerating daily doses of emotional turbulence in a relationship. Right?
Well, here are 5 ways being single is way better than being in a bad relationship:
1. You are enough.
The mainstream media is filled with really unhealthy messages regarding relationships. For example, many say that you need another person to make the holidays complete or to make you happy. These romantic notions work great in books and on the Hallmark Channel, but when taken literally, these ideas are destructive.
You are always a whole and indivisible being, capable of immense self-love, self acceptance and sexuality. Appreciate yourself and know that you’re not alone in your singleness.
2. You made a choice to be single because you want to be single.
Although it sounds ass-backward, this is a paradigm shift that will help you in the long run. By consciously making the choice to be single, if will shift the way you view your life and how you live it when it comes to sharing that information with your co-workers, family and friends. You are making this decision, so be proud.
3. You are in control of your own life.
Instead of remaining the victim of your own fear of being single, take control. Tell yourself that you are actively remaining single for a the holidays.
If you do plan to date every once in a while, make sure the dates are fun and give you ample time to get know someone. There’s no rush and no pressure, just fun.
4. Do whatever you want.
In the end, your relationship status is a personal choice — there is no right or wrong, no good or bad. Instead of being the victim of cultural assumptions and societal norms, take the time to find out how you really would like to engage with other people.
What kind of status would you choose if there was no pressure, no assumptions? Take your time and find what’s best for you. If you think something is a good idea, then there have already been many others who think the same, and have most likely blazed a trail for you to follow.
The way you engage in relationships (or don’t) is not what’s important; what is important is doing it consciously, and doing what’s right for you.
5. It’s better to be single than in a bad relationship.
Getting into an unhealthy, bad relationship simply out of a fear of being alone is a really bad idea. It takes a lot of courage to take that leap into being single, but it’s always, 100 percent of the time worth it when the relationship is causing more harm than good.
