By Milcah Tanimu
In Urhoboland, the bride price is a key part of the marriage process, but it is much lower than in many other Nigerian cultures. In some cases, it’s as low as ₦200. However, the customs surrounding it are extensive.
The process begins when the groom visits the bride’s family to express his intentions. If they approve, they invite him back for a second visit, where the wedding list is handed over. This list includes items like outfits for the bride’s parents, money for the traditional meal, and a request for three bags of salt. It may also include a request for the groom to clear the bride’s father’s farm, which is negotiable.
The bride price is discussed in a family meeting. The bride’s family asks for a high amount, justifying it with their daughter’s education and beauty. The groom’s family then negotiates the price down. Typically, the price settles at ₦120, although it can vary. This symbolizes that the bride is not for sale but is honored.
Once the price is paid, the bride’s family returns ₦10 to the groom. This represents an investment in the future of their marriage. While the amount can vary, the process emphasizes respect, negotiation, and the couple’s future.
