By Daniel Edu
While Valentine’s Day is celebrated as a day of love, Nigerian relationship and marriage coach, Bisi Olasetan, emphasizes that love alone is not sufficient to sustain a relationship or marriage. Olasetan stresses the importance of understanding the distinction between ownership and trust in a relationship, noting that love does not imply ownership. She highlights the significance of privacy and access, emphasizing that a healthy relationship involves trust and openness rather than control.
According to Olasetan, people often fail to consider the necessary skills and actions that demonstrate love and contribute to the growth of a relationship. She emphasizes the need for kindness, patience, and effective communication in expressing love. Additionally, she encourages partners to nurture their relationship, develop self-awareness, and understand each other’s emotions.
Addressing the recent trend where some individuals claim that infidelity is no longer a dealbreaker, Olasetan advises individuals to be aware of their values and beliefs before entering into a relationship. She emphasizes the importance of aligning beliefs with a potential partner to avoid conflicts.
In sustaining a relationship, Olasetan recommends discussing past experiences and backgrounds openly, as transparency is a significant value. She cautions against intentionally hiding information from a partner, as it may lead to future problems. Overall, Olasetan emphasizes the need for effective communication, emotional understanding, and shared values to build a strong and lasting relationship.
