The Joys of motherhood knows no bound and losing a child hurts like crazy. Popular OAP, Tolulope Oniru-Demuren aka Toolz has opened up on how she felt when she lost her child.
The beautiful mother of one opened up on the latest episode of Life Lessons with Betty Irabor on Linda Ikeji TV.
Toolz shared her tragic experience. She also spoke about the disbelief and agony she endured as well as her journey to recovery.
She said the hospital here in Nigeria missed a few things and didn’t pick up on the problem in time.
She eventually travelled to the UK and a scan showed that her baby was too small and may not survive.
“I never once thought that the health of my child would be an issue,” Toolz said.
“I heard a voice saying ‘this isn’t going to work out but you’re going to be OK’.”
“That was horrible, the day that I did the scan and there was just like nothing. When we did the last scan, there was nothing, like, no movement, nothing.”
“Oh my gosh, it was horrible, it was absolutely horrible,” she added.
She said she was told that she’ll be given some medications and will come back after three days to push the baby out. The medications were given to her on Thursday and she was told to come back on Sunday. However, she went into labour on Saturday.
She recalled preparing breakfast on that fateful Saturday when she felt pain and went to the bathroom.
She said: “From there, the pain went from two to twelve. And I remember screaming… I was in so much pain and that’s when I realized that gosh, I’m in labour.
“I was in labour for about 6 or 7 hours…
“It was very very traumatic. I try not to think about it too much.
“I think one of the worst moments after that… of course this was in the UK, they had to do like an autopsy, I had to arrange a funeral. It was horrible.
“That whole time, I was just like, ‘Yeah, God, I’m done’. I’m like ‘come and take me, I’m gone’.”
At the final scan, she said she had some sort of “spiritual awakening”.
Toolz was born in London on 6 July 1982. She had her primary education at Talbot House preparatory school in Bournemouth, UK, and secondary education in Nigeria before relocating to study at City of Westminster College.
She also has a degree in Business and Mass communication from London Metropolitan University. Her parents are the famous Oniru Royal family of Lagos State.
